Open Question: "His" money or "ours"?

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My husband makes $100K+ /year; I make about $15K.He will be getting a $5K "sign-on bonus" in the next month or so.He has refinanced the house AT LEAST 3 times in the last year, pulling out any equity, skipping mortgage payments (because you can when you refi) and I have seen NONE of this money, don't even know how much it was.I saw none of our tax return this year (I don't even know how much it was). I have NO visibility to his bank accounts at all. I am not permitted any access whatever to "his" money.He brags that he has "about $20,000" in "savings".I am breaking my back working trying to keep up payments on $10,000 in credit card debt, and not making it. I have NO savings. Here is my question: am I not entitled to ANY of that money, legally? We have been married for 15+ years and we live in Illinois.If I AM entitled to it, how do I get it?Thanks.

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